Why are you afraid of speaking? (Day #28)

Alex Barrera
3 min readDec 28, 2016


Image credits: Pascal Walschots / Screams! (Flickr)

My 30 days of writing are about to end, just in time for the New Year’s Eve. I’ve been reviewing all the articles I’ve written, and a clear pattern emerges.

People love reading about truths we all know, but no one speaks about it. I understand it; it’s an open secret. Still, I feel people should be braver about these things.

While it might be an open secret, the bigger conversation isn’t happening. People will talk about it in small covenants, hushed tones and in fear of the stigma.

There is so much good coming from speaking about important things. When you share a deep feeling, a significant experience, a secret, other people can reflect on it. It will resonate with others. You’ll get valuable input, comments and it will only enrich your point of view.

The ones that laugh, that stigmatizes those that speak up, are probably suffering from the same fate, or worse.

I think most people don’t speak up for fear of what others will think of them. The irony is, the ones that laugh, that stigmatizes those that speak up, are probably suffering from the same fate, or worse.

“It is under the greatest adversity that there exists the greatest potential for doing good, both for oneself and others.” ― Dalai Lama

I take risks. I’ve said so before, but I don’t mind. I don’t mind being honest, being straight forward. Some people will be shocked, some will get offended, some will be afraid.

This is MY experience. It’s as raw as it gets. Why? Because I have nothing to hide. I have nothing to be scared. I have no secrets. Ask me, and I will answer.

We still live in a fake society, where people are not what they look like. A society where who you are on social networks isn’t who you are in real life. You’re that wishful You. The one that parties, the one where life always smiles at. Meanwhile, we’re dying inside. We’re suffering, and we are alone.

Funny how technology should bring us closer but for most, it’s doing quite the opposite. It’s widening the gap between who we want to be and who we are.

Look in the mirror. You are who you are. Your choices took you there. Be responsible, take control of your life. Being afraid is ok. Being imperfect is ok. You are allowed to fail. You are allowed second chances.

Live your life without regrets, and you’ll be able to speak up. To tell those truths, those secrets everyone shares deep inside them. Be the one that breaks the glass roof that shows others that they aren’t alone.

“The more you are motivated by Love, The more Fearless & Free your action will be.” ― Dalai Lama

Speak out people! Be brave, be free!

This post is part of my 30 Days Writing Challenge. If you want to check out the previous post, here you have an index.



Alex Barrera

Chief Editor at The Aleph Report (@thealeph_report), CEO at Press42.com, Cofounder & associated editor @tech_eu, former editor @KernelMag.