What about fear and risk? (Day #2)
The other day I was talking with a good friend and we started talking about fear. It’s an emotion that’s all around us, but still, we rarely stop and think about it.
There are many reasons to feel fear, but it all boils down to one thing, fear protect us from being hurt.
The context of our talk was human relationships, and it got me thinking. Should fear of getting hurt stop us from living our lives?
I’m one for going all in. Some people misunderstand it for reckless behavior. Some people tell me I’m a risk taker.
I’ve never seen myself as a risk taker. There is a quote that better describes how I feel about it:
“I only bet when I know I’m going to win.”
So yes, I make calculated bets, I might take in risk, but I also try to understand the odds at play.
Take a decision because YOU want, not because fear dictates it
I guess the big difference with other people is that I’m willing to balance the odds with the consequences. Even though something might hurt, I might go for it. Yes, I could get hurt, but I also take some rewards in the process. And if all comes to being hurt, well, it was my conscious decision, and I’m the only one to blame.
So, should you stop doing things because of fear? I don’t think so. What I believe is that you shouldn’t be näive. Take a decision because YOU want, not because fear dictates it. Be aware of what might happen. Plan contingencies within contingencies and even then, be ready for surprise and change.
In the end, it’s a real exercise of letting go, of making a decision with the complete certainty that there will be complications. As I wrote before, it’s all about understanding that life is messy.
Don’t let fear stop you from living. Life is a beautiful thing, even when pain creeps around. It’s what makes us human. Embrace life, with all its quirks, just don’t be blind to it. Be aware. Open your eyes, and then walk and dive into it without second thoughts.